“I’m Touch-Starved But Nervous About Being Touched.” Is Cuddle Therapy Right For Me?

Dear Cuddle Practitioner,

I want to try this… I’m so lonely and touch-starved it hurts. But I’m also nervous. I haven’t been touched in a safe or kind way in a long time. My body flinches before my mind can stop it. What if I freeze up? What if I feel too much? I don’t want to waste your time.

— Torn Between Want and Fear

Dear Torn Between Want and Fear,

You are not alone in this feeling. So many beautiful souls carry both longing and fear when it comes to safe touch. Your body remembers—and it’s doing its best to protect you. That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom.

We will go at your pace, together. You never have to do more than you’re ready for. Even just sitting nearby and breathing in quiet company can be healing. Every step you take toward softness is celebrated.

You're not a waste of time—you’re a gift learning how to receive again.

With gentleness, — Lovely